Be My Valentine

It is important to be held by another, to be witnessed by another. We are social animals and need connection. Humans live longer, healthier, and happier lives when experiencing deep and reliable relationships. I have learned the most in relationships, including what I am stating here. But the lack of connection with oneself is at the core of human suffering.

I used to be plagued by a loneliness so caustic that I feared I might not survive it. At times, even while in a relationship. What changed? I learned how to meet my loneliness, and paradoxically, aloneness became necessary for the cultivation of self.

My self-awareness is the very companion I’ve been seeking all my life. The ability to witness my every emotion, my every response to life, feels like a warm and kind embrace, a nourishing and safe holding of myself throughout life.

Since most of us weren’t taught as children how to be with ourselves, as adults, it is imperative to develop this level of presence with oneself. The nourishment that ensues is different than the nourishment received from another person. It is a muscle that grows within, which will be with us in moments of loneliness, conflict, and loss.

In my groups, we learn together how to develop this muscle. I have a new group starting this Tuesday, February 16, 2021. There are a couple of spots left. For more details, please visit InwardRide.com.

If you have any questions, please contact me by phone at +1-805-637-2230, or email at inwardride@gmail.com.